Parents are entrusted with the interesting and very important responsibility of assisting their children in the shaping of their developing personalities. Some parents take this responsibility too lightly and permit their children to grow up without the guidance that would have enabled them to make the most of their personal capacities. Others approach the matter of child training with such sternness that their children misunderstand their good motives and rebel against their ironclad discipline.
Between these two extremes, there should be an ideal parental attitude which is so kindly that there can be no misunderstanding of motives and so wise that the child will be spared the mishaps and heartaches which come to the young person who must explore life on his own.
Success in child training involves the development of an attitude of mind on the part of the child by which he respectfully accepts the counsel of his parents and welcomes their interest in his decisions and welfare. Such an attitude does not occur spontaneously. It springs up from the fact that the child is convinced that his/her parents are his most loyal friends. Parents should use those approaches that will give the child positive proof of his/her parent’s unselfish interest.
Children have inborn powers of discernment which enables them to place a very accurate evaluation on their parent’s motives. The language that penetrates to the heart of a child does not consist of phrases and sentences; it is in the form of acts and kindness, gestures of affection and practical evidence of fair dealing.
Right from babyhood through adolescence, a child craves the affection of his parents. The child’s personality becomes healthy and colourful with affection.
In successfully training children, the emphasis is placed on the child’s development of character more than on his immediate conduct. The child must be taught to think things through for himself and after weighing the possibilities, arrive at his own decision of what to do. Thus, it is the function of the parent to guide and direct because this ability cannot be imparted suddenly the parent.
All activities of the home must be cooperative in nature, only then can the primary function of the home be accomplished – to prepare the children for adulthood. The parents must make adequate provision for and share actively in the program of recreation.