The three most important events in a person’s life are his/her birth, marriage, and death. Out of all these, he/she has no control over the 1st and the 3rd. If he wants, he may exercise considerable control over the 2nd.
The question here is, ‘How do you know when you are in love?’ Is love something supernatural or predetermined? NO, it isn’t even mysterious. Love is simply a state of emotional exhilaration which has been stimulated by social and physical appeal.
Falling in love is a pleasant experience. With butterflies sounding in your tummy. A coupe in love try to make favourable impressions and they try to always be in their good behaviour. Their thoughts run to the future rather than to the realities of the past and the present.
The thrill of being in love prompts false assumption that marriage is a healing center or a miraculous procedure in which all the undesirable traits will be eliminated. It is a very rampant for one couple during courtship to observe undesirable characteristics. They are blinded by the illusion that theirs will be a ‘Perfect marriage’ and they will ‘live happily forever’. Little do they know that they must take the bitter with the sweet, they must assume obligations, they must address themselves to work as well as to recreation, most importantly, they must take life as it comes.
‘Till death do us part’ I the final criterion on which a marriage must be judged, and successful marriage implies more than just a pleasant honeymoon.
You need to know that marital happiness is a measurable reality, and it can be judged on many grounds. Below are some:
Finance: couples must agree in matters of finance
Friends: couples must agree in their choices of friends
Recreation: couples must agree in terms of choosing their fun activities, they should have kindred interests and activities.
Success in marriage depends on the merging of two personalities, but there are many human factors that tend to weld a home into an invincible unit, they are:
Educational and cultural background: cases where the wife has better education than the husband is a red flag. In such a situation, the husband has a sense of inferiority, and it deprives the wife of that satisfaction which would come from her husband’s being able to revolve in the same social orbit.
Religious affiliation: this is an important consideration for those contemplating marriage. The scripture made it clear in this admonition: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14. For those who accept their religion as a definite way of life, it is not proper to unite in marriage with one of another faith.